Sexually Suppressed Societies and Internet Pornography

Google enables anyone to quantify almost anything – what people are worried about, what people want to buy, what they do buy, what they want to learn, etc. And then, you can cross that information with almost any other parameter, such as geography. So if you want to know where people consume the most pornography, Google can actually supply that information – within seconds. A trend that has been noticed concerns the search for porn and sex related Internet content. It is commonly understood that pornography content is one of the most sought after types of Internet content worldwide. But in which regions and countries is it MOST searched?

While the answer may surprise many, it does not surprise psychologists and researchers. At the top of the lists for porn related search are Muslim countries like Eqypt, Algeria and Pakistan. In the US, there are more searches for porn in States such as Utah. In societies that tend to be more repressed in their sexual attitudes, it appears that people are driven to seeking information and exposure online.

In a study done by a Harvard University affiliated group in 2009, it was found that in the US, states where a majority of residents agreed with the statement “I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage,” bought 3.6 more pornography subscriptions per thousand people than states where a majority disagreed with that statement.

“Over half of internet users in Iran have admitted searching for porn and about one third of them do it every day,” says Saeed Madani, a sociologist in Tehran. Note that in Iran, pornography is illegal and just last year, many arrests were made of suspects accused of running pornography websites. Iranian boys and girls are banned from socializing freely and demand for online adult content has exploded there.

Psychologists in these kinds of communities, where harsh laws are enacted to try to eliminate sexual content or access to it, find that many people suffer from extreme sexual problems caused by years of suppression and fear.

So what can be concluded or from this information? On one hand, it appears that enacting laws to try to prevent access to pornography is not working and is likely increasing the public’s demand for the pornography content. On the other hand, the availability of pornography and the widespread exposure is undoubtedly a danger to society’s sexual and mental health.

In societies that ban open relationships and do not allow any discussion of sexuality, even if it is educational, normal and healthy, the population is driven to seek information elsewhere. If the only available source for learning about sex, is pornography, the results can be catastrophic. So the conclusion is that indeed, something has to be done about eliminating access to pornography. But in parallel, it must be ensured that children, teens and adults all have access to the right kind of information at the right time in their life and in a highly accessible format. That would include parental guidance, sex education in school and Internet content that can enhance their understanding and remove the element of embarrassment they may be facing.

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Pornography and Its Cascading Effects on a Child’s Psychology

In the book “A War We Must Win”, author John Harmer criticize the media that denies that pornography, sex, nudity and violence have any long-term negative effect on adults or children. He reinforces his view with the support of Nicholas Van Hoffman’s quote:”Why is it that liberals who believe “role models” in third grade readers are of decisive influence on behaviour when it concerns racism or male chauvinist piggery, laugh at the assertion that pornography may also teach rape? Every textbook in every public school system in the US has been overhauled in the last twenty years because it was thought that the blond, blue-eyed urban children once depicted therein taught little people a socially dangerous ethnocentrism”.

The emergence of the Internet not only revolutionized the communication world, but it also changed the definition of socialization, education, employment and entertainment in a significant manner. The internet provides numerous benefits if it is used in a rational and proper way, but a slight distraction from its conscious use can lead the user in a vicious circle of problems, and children are more vulnerable to this digital witchcraft. The internet can bring awesome results, if we use it in a controlled way.

Teens are always curious to know and discover the things, their inquisitive behaviour often ushers them into the mesmerising world of fascination. In pursuit of finding the answers of their queries and puzzles they often jeopardize themselves in ‘Internet Pornography’ which provides them an easy, but indiscreet access to explore the world.

EARLY EXPOSURE TO ADULT STUFF AND ITS RAMIFICATIONS

Exposure to pornography vitiates the learning habits of children and hinders their mental growth. Images which imprinted on the mind of a child at an early age often reflect on her actions, and this negative exposure propels a child to act out sexually against other kids. These premature activities are nothing but the result of pornographic content which they had encountered on the internet.

A) Pornography compels children towards sexual violence

The Internet has proven a useful tool for paedophiles and sexual predators as they distribute child pornography, engage in sexually explicit conversations with children, and seek victims in chat rooms. The more pornography these individuals access, the higher the risk of their acting out what they see, including sexual assault, rape, and child molestation.

B) Pornography is a major cause of STDs in children.

One grave concern for societies all over the world is, an increase in venereal diseases among children, the impact of indecent and erotic content which is flourishing on the internet. A large number of children and teenagers are now afflicted with STDs across the world. There are cases of HIV POSITIVE children where many succumbed to AIDS. Unwanted pregnancies in children is another devastating problem of the modern liberal societies, and it is a big challenge for various health organizations in the US and Europe to combat this evil.

C) Psychological & Developmental problems in children due to pornographic content.

These days adolescents are facing many psychiatric problems such as attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), social phobia, hostility, aggression, reduced self-control, insomnia and depression, this problem is more acute in children who are victims of internet addiction.

Now the question arises, How to cope-up with this 21st-century epidemic? Here are some tips for parents and teachers through which they can minimize the risk.

A) Proactive parenting and moral support: Educating your children on the negative effects of the internet is the best way to safeguard your children from bad influences on the internet. Children learn best from their parents as God has made parents the first and best teachers of children. Encourage children to pursue outdoor activities and team games in natural settings. Cultivate habits, including reading, parents should kindle their hidden talent and motivate them for extracurricular activities.

B) Collaborative efforts of parents and teachers: There should be a trio between parents, children and teachers and parents must discuss with the teachers of their children about their overall personality development and at the same time teachers must anticipate if a student is going through any behavioural upheaval. Apart from this parent should communicate with school administration and librarians to create a directory of best kids’ sites by bookmarking them on a home computer.

C) Proper Monitoring by Parents

• Set up the computer in a busy area of the home rather than in a child’s bedroom.

• Use kid-friendly search engines and Web browsers or adult search engines that provide filtering options.

• Block pop-ups, which are commonly used by pornographic sites.

• Use filtering software to block inappropriate content by age category. Keep in mind, content-filtering software alone won’t protect your children online, but it does reduce the risk. Investigate filtering technology.

• Utilize parental controls provided by the service provider, always monitor the activities of your child in chat rooms as most of the time children tempted by sex offenders through chat rooms.

• If you notice something susceptible, don’t overreact, you must have a good chemistry with them and allow them to ventilate their fear and worries. The home should be the most comfortable zone for children.

Apart from these suggestions, there is one thing which works as a panacea for most children. Yes, you guessed absolutely right; ‘Family Bonding’. Children need warm care and they often get astray from the right path when they find themselves alone and desolated. We should spend more and more time with them, Parents should be a helping hand to invite them in a ‘REALISTIC SOCIAL WORLD’ rather than leaving them in a ‘VIRTUAL SOCIAL WORLD’.

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The Basic Science of Pornography Addiction

There are 5 main brain chemicals associated with pornography addiction and each has their own function within pornography addiction. They are Dopamine, Adrenaline, Serotonin, Prolactin and Oxytocin.

DOPAMINE

Dopamine is the main chemical pushing porn addiction; is a “neurotransmitter” (which simply means “a chemical in the body that carries a signal or impulse from one nerve cell to another”) and plays a huge role in all our lives whether we are addicts or not. Dopamine is, amongst many other things (such as being involved in everything from regulating movement to the control of attention) the chemical that gives us “expectation buzzes”. This buzz could be for the cake we fancy on the sweet trolley in a restaurant when we are still eating our main meal; the chase in sexual encounters; what can drive people to buy lottery tickets; the thrill we feel when we know we are going on our holidays soon or, in addiction, is (in part) the desire for the next fix of the wet, dry or behavioral drug we are addicted to. It is also the brain chemical behind the thrill when gossiping; the rush we feel when we hear a celebrity scandal or when we want to buy a tabloid to read what is on the front cover. Bottom line, dopamine is all about expectation and wanting (as opposed to necessarily liking) which is what can make it an incredibly destructive chemical when it comes to addiction. Dopamine is not about levels of pleasure per se. It’s about expectation and what, for instance, drives lust.

Dopamine loves novelty anything new and interesting… The newest car, game, sexual conquest, movie… A person could have a spike in dopamine just thinking of watching the next movie whilst still watching the current movie. Dopamine is behind the drive for more and more scenes when in a pornography binge and why a pornography addict will keep on clicking to see more and more images or videos as they get a surge of dopamine with anything novel and new. In response, the Pornography Industry has to keep upping the ante with its content to keep addict’s interest and money and why studios like Evil Angel – who specialize in the more extreme and taboo end of the market – are so profitable. Dopamine is also the chemical responsible for the motivating feeling behind the thought that you will be paid handsomely at the end of a rough pornography scene if you are a pornography performer…

We are all hooked on dopamine to a certain degree. Dopamine can give life some of its loveliest and memorable moments (low dopamine levels are also associated with depression)… but can also create hell for us when we become addicted to a wet, dry or behavioral drug.

Addicts have damaged the reward circuitry in their brains and will feel less of a hit with their drug fixes over time as it now becomes harder and harder to stimulate their reward systems and will therefore need more and more of the drug to get the same effect. Feeling less of a hit results in craving more of what will give the addict the same amount of “pleasure” as they had before it decreased… (remember dopamine is all about expectation and wanting – as opposed to necessarily liking – most addicts despise the lives they live when in active addiction yet still go back time and time again for more).

In addiction, new neural pathways are created in the addict’s brain which become, over time, about taking the path of least resistance. The rational side of the brain that understands about consequences subsequently becomes weaker over time too as the neural pathways that once ran the show are weakened as the addiction escalates and a tug of war will end up ensuing between the higher self and lower self. Levels of dopamine always decline over the course of an addict’s addiction career and the ante is always upped to get more as a result.

When you think that the definition of pornography is “Material whose primary purpose is to create sexual arousal” then it is easy to understand how the role of dopamine fits into that as dopamine is also released during genital orgasm as well as in the prelude to the orgasm. The more pornography a person does the more dopamine gets released which in turn reinforces the behavior and means the person not only desires it at some point in the future but requires it. The more porn a person does, the more they masturbate to orgasm and the more dopamine is released which further deepens the addictive cycle. It’s a feedback loop which becomes more and more difficult to escape from. The person then needs more extreme material to get sexually aroused which is when reality becomes the turn off and “boring”.

ADRENALINE

With dopamine in the driving seat of porn addiction, the need for more and more of it will take a person through some traumatising viewing material. With each new brutal or shocking image, the body releases the fight or flight hormone adrenaline to help the person cope with the trauma of what they have just witnessed on the screen.

You’ve heard of the term “adrenaline junkie”? Well that term applies just as much in porn addiction as it does for dangerous outdoor pursuits. Porn addicts – over time – also become addicted to adrenaline and will have to seek out ever more perverse, grotesque, violent, disturbing and illegal pornography to keep getting the same effect – just as adventurers have to do ever more dangerous acts to get their hits of adrenaline.

During this process the profoundly shocking pornography they are now forced to view by their addiction which many addicts would never have believed that they would have ever viewed once porn that assaults their souls can seem exciting pre-ejaculation/ orgasm. Once they have orgasmed though, addicts can now see what is on their screens and are often horrified and retraumatised by it.

And the whole sorry cycle just keeps getting worse and worse to the point that the only taboo pornography left to look in the end – which will give the adrenaline trauma hit addicts need – will be child pornography. When you have reward circuitry that is numb – which is what all active addicts have – the person will do anything to jack up the chemicals they need to feel less numb.

Whenever adrenaline is released in the body, whatever a person or animal is doing or looking at during those moments are burnt into the psyche. This is the reason why porn addicts can be haunted by porn images they have seen long after they stop viewing pornography. This is also the reason, on the positive side, why some beautiful sexual (or other) memories are remembered too. If the heart was beating faster at that time due to the release of adrenaline in the body, those memories too, will be burnt into the psyche.

OXYTOCIN

Oxytocin is the chemical that is released when a Mother and her new born baby are bonding after birth. Psychology Professor Ruth Feldman from Bar-Ilan University in Israel is at the forefront of oxytocin research. She has spent years studying oxytocin’s role in the mother-child bond as well as the role oxytocin plays in romantic bonds. Prof Feldman says “The increase in oxytocin during the period of falling in love was the highest that we ever found.” Prof Feldman concluded that “Romantic relationships can have a profound effect on adult’s health and well being whereas the inability to maintain intimate bonds has been associated with physical and emotional distress. Studies in monogamous mammals underscore the central role of oxytocin in pair bonding and human imaging studies implicate oxytocin in early romantic love… Oxytocin is known to promote trust, bonding and attachment between adults and between parents and their offspring… ”

Oxytocin is also known as the “cuddle hormone” or the “bonding chemical”. When two people are healthily bonding, masses of oxytocin is released and this is what will lay the foundations of a lifetime bond between the two people whether that person is a partner or a friend. It is necessary to keep doing the things which laid those foundations though for the bonds to endure as less oxytocin is released when there are problems in our relationships and it stops altogether when relationships end and this is part of the reason we feel so much agony within ourselves at the endings of those close relationships.

The trouble with pornography is that viewers become bonded – through oxytocin – with porn performers; particular photos or scenes and especially bonded with their porn stash as oxytocin is released during porn viewing. This is the reason porn addicts struggle to get rid of their stash once they make the decision to quit porn. Because of the oxytocin bond, it can feel like a death.

People can become bonded to anything that makes them feel good – from DJs on the radio to the local shop-keeper who makes them feel good by smiling at them. Where good feelings and pleasure are involved, bonding is always possible. And nowhere is that more ironically relevant than in pornography use.

SEROTONIN

Serotonin is often called “natural Prozac” and is released after sexual climax and what makes a person feel satisfied. This is the chemical responsible for men falling asleep after ejaculating and what many porn addicts use (without them realising that this is what they are doing) to help them fall asleep after a porn bender as it relaxes them. The hormone releases a person from stress for a while and why a calmness is felt after genital orgasm. Serotonin is also an inhibitor to dopamine which basically means it stops its release.

PROLACTIN

Prolactin is also an inhibitor to dopamine stopping its production in the body – and is released into the body post genital orgasm and what brings an end to traditional sexual intercourse. Prolactin is the chemical responsible for people who have just had sex desperately wanting to get away from each other.

If couples do not genitally orgasm, prolactin is not released.

Prolactin is also the chemical responsible for what is often called “post coital blues” which is the depression that comes for a few days post genital orgasm in both males and females. When in the “honeymoon mating frenzy” period of a relationship, we remain strongly bonded by high oxytocin levels and quickly overcome our “hormonal blues” (prolactin releases) by having more sex (therefore dopamine rushes).

Often in porn addiction – to counter that depression – porn addicts will begin another binging cycle to get the dopamine flowing in their bodies again and the whole cycle begins again. Depression at this point will come to be seen as a normal state and often not even recognised as even being depression especially if the addict starts taking anti-depressants.

The same is the case with couples in the early stages of their relationships. They will have frequent sex because of the novelty involved with the new relationship (the dopamine factor). If each sex session then has a genital orgasm, the whole dopamine-prolactin cycle will be going on there too and why as the relationship settles in, many people often start losing interest in sex with their partner as the novelty has worn off and begin to drift apart and/ or the two people start to look for someone else someone novel – so dopamine can start flowing in their bodies again because it is at this point that the lows of prolactin are now felt. That is prolactin in action and usually has nothing to do with how compatible the two people are with each other or their core relationship. This behavior is the same in humans, primates, mammals and reptiles because as Kruger et al explain, it originates in the primitive part of our brain.

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Keep Away Pornography From Homes

With the advent of the internet, there is much unwanted adult content and pornography. These materials have grave negative implications for children, parents, spouses, and the family at large. Previously, matters of sex were relegated to the bedroom and brothels. People shied away from discussing or displaying sexual passion in public. Today, unwanted adult content is readily accessible, even through mobile phones.

Society should be apprehensive when unwanted online adult content and pornography falls into the hands of children. While it is a fact that children will, at one stage in their lives, come to comprehend sex, it is the nature and age of orientation that are perturbing. Sex is pleasurable and addictive to some extent. However, this is not what we desire for human beings in their formative years to embrace. Every person undergoes a systematic developmental process and sex has its moment, which is definitely not childhood. We need to allow children to enjoy their innocence, and to grow naturally into adulthood.

Unwanted online adult content and pornography may appear to the casual eye as being beneficial to couples, but that is far from the reality. It is factual that couples can learn several techniques on how to give one another pleasure when having sexual intercourse, after they watch this kind of content. However, adult material is likely to foment discontent in marriages or relationships since either or both of the partners may develop unrealistic sexual expectation from the other. It should always be borne in mind that the people portrayed in pornography videos are actually actors, who are trained to exaggerate the acts and effects of sex. Couples trying this at home will only be disillusioned, and may resort to infidelity in search of elusive sexual pleasure. Pornography may destroy marriage instead of building it.

Unwanted online adult content and pornography are also destroying the moral fabric of the society since they defy and negate all the societal and cultural norms that people have learnt to live with. Few people can argue with the notion that religion and society bring order and harmony in a community. Allowing online adult content into our homes is to disorient the manner in which any society operates. Unless such stuff is monitored and restricted, we risk having a society in which the young and the elderly do not respect one another, and where the inviolability of marriage and the honor of the family are disregarded.

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Porn Filter – The Only Way to Protect Your Family From Pornography

Thanks to the Internet, any child can view pornography and most likely will by the time they are eleven. Anyone a can see endless amounts of pornography at the click of their mouse and in the complete privacy of their own home. It’s even free.

Without a porn filter installed on the computer, the likelihood of a child viewing pornography is almost 100%. Our society sees the issue of pornography as a free-speech issue and the belief is that if you don’t like it, you don’t have to use it. That may have been true before online pornography existed. But what about children? A child should not be expected to make the decision about whether to look at pornography. It is not supposed to be an option for a child or teen. Even when porn websites ask visitors to confirm that they are adults, any child can still enter by clicking through. But even so, there is an abundance of hardcore and amateur pornography posted all over the Internet without any warnings. It’s like sending a 15 year old boy into s strip club and telling him to keep his eyes covered. But is a lot worse than that. No authority is controlling the content that is available online.

A report from the Witherspoon Institute in Princeton, N.J., raises some red flags that should not be ignored. “The Social Costs of Pornography” points to new social science and brain research, and shows evidence that pornography is harmful. Porn teaches negative sexual behaviors and attitudes. Further, the graphic porn on the Internet creates a risk of porn addiction.

65 percent of 16 to 17 year old boys say they have friends who regularly download pornography. Even pre-teen boys are reporting compulsive porn behavior. This happens right under the nose of their parents who are not aware of how their children are using the Internet. Behind closed doors, late at night or while parents are at work, teens and children surf porn. This will continue until either the government figures out how to protect us from the porn content that we do not want in our homes or each parent and institution, takes the responsibility to install a porn filter and stop porn on their own. For now, a porn filter is the only realistic solution.

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